It has been a while to say the least -- over a year. It has been a little crazy in this gal's life but I think it's finally starting to become a little more manageable and maybe I will find time to post things but this is something that I wanted to get out there before it was way too late (I think it's already a little too late).
Summer is quickly officially approaching (sometime in June right?) which means that bathing suit season is here. You may be thinking here it goes, another one of those don't wear a bikini blog posts. Well, you're right. But I want you to travel with me to the other side of the fence for just a minute (at least those of you who wear bikinis). Before I go one step further I want you to know that up until the end of last summer a bikini is all I owned. I wore one every time I was on the beach.
Now for our journey. Close your eyes and imagine you are on the beach with the man of your dreams (if you're married you better be imagining you are with your hubby:)) You are confidently walking up and down the shoreline, running in and out of the water that isn't quite warm enough yet in a beautiful strapless bright colored bikini with cute little rings on the hips and with your tan, ooo girl you look good. You're the one thing your man is focusing on and all is well with the world and then it happens. Your worst nightmare (or maybe it's your man's worst nightmare): another guy walks by and gives you the scan and the "you look good" quick stare. What do you think he thought? It's kind of awkward to think that the guy just saw you in your bra and underwear. Think about it. How much clothing do you really have on? I felt my bikinis were pretty modest and yet my sports bra covers me better than my bathing suit did. Shouldn't your husband (or future husband) be the only man to ever see you in your bra and underwear? Or what about if you're at the beach with your family (or family-in-love) and your with your brothers (or your brothers-in-love) what are they suppose to think? You're related! I do feel, in public, we have a job to do ladies -- and it's an important one. If we won't protect our men who will? And what's our excuse for not doing so? We want to flaunt our bodies that we worked hard for? (I get it. I'm there. I workout all the time and never as hard as I do right now that I'm married. But why should I share it with the rest of the world? I worked hard for that. Shouldn't it be a "trophy" for my husband?) We want our tummies to be tan so we don't look weird when we stand in the mirror (tan in your backyard!)?
This isn't a I hate bikini blog because if we ever own a pool or I lay out in the privacy of our own backyard yes, I will probably still pull out that old bikini and put it on to get all those tummy rolls at least bronzed (they look better that way). This is a think about it from your man's perspective. And, on the flip side do you really want him staring at other girls in their bra and underwear? Don't think so.
Just a thought from this crazy girl who's married life is just a year old. Suddenly it's like a whole new modesty bubble pops over you and thoughts about modesty flood over you in a totally different way. Until next time, think about it: What are you wearing...even if you aren't married one day you will be.
On His adventure <3
Laurlee
